Thursday, February 12, 2009

Get Guy Back – A Gals Guide to Making Up

How do you get guy back? How do you convince
him that what the two of you had together was
special? This is your “get guy back” gal’s
guide to making up.

First of all, you have to recognize that
whatever happened, you were both at fault.
If you cheated, he wasn’t giving you what
you needed so you looked elsewhere. If he
cheated, you were the one not giving what he
needed. Yes, the cheater is morally culpable
for the cheating. The moral responsibility
does not lie with the person who was cheated
upon. But the fault lies in both party’s laps.

Given that, it is important to forgive and forget.
True forgiveness means that you let go of all of
the anger related to the incident. You never
bring it up again. You never let it cloud your
relationship. If you cannot do this, you won’t
get guy back for any period of time.

If you were the person at fault, apologize – and
mean it. Too many times, after people say “I’m
sorry,” there’s an “Oops I did it again,” moment.
You’re not Britney Spears. It’s not cute. When
you say you are sorry, you have to commit to
changing. Otherwise, you don’t mean it and you
won’t get guy back.

Be prepared to chase him a little bit. This
doesn’t mean sending him hundreds of text
messages or stalking him, but you have got to
show him that you are still interested if you
want to get guy back. You can’t expect him to
come running back just because you have sent out
some modest signals that you are ready to re-start
the relationship. Put your ego in check and put
your heart on the line.

You may have to settle for something less than you
wanted. It may be that he is only ready to be
friends when you want a full fledged boyfriend.
It may take time to rebuild the trust. If this is
the case, you need to give him the space he needs
to get to know you again. Accept that you have to
take what he is offering right now if you want to
eventually get guy back.

Finally, you have to know when to give up on the get
guy back strategy. Sometimes, you just have to move
on. If your boyfriend is unable to forgive you, you
are in a position where the best thing you can do is
move on and enter into new relationships. While this
will break your heart right now, it may be the best
thing that could have happened to you. Whatever went
wrong in this relationship, your soul mate is still
out there. Get guy back may stop you from meeting him!

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