I Lost Love – Every Relationship Has a Time Line

When I think about how I lost love, I think about
Alfred Lord Tennyson’s quote, “Tis better to have
loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
When I lost love, I felt the whole world had
collapsed around me. I’m sharing my story in
order to help you if you too have lost the love
of your life.

I think it is important to remember that every
relationship has a natural lifespan. In Junior
High, that’s about four days. As we get older,
the lifespan increases. But, there are certain
relationships that are right for a period of time
and then go awry. Most of us will only have one
great love in our lives. The other relationships
will terminate. That’s why when I say I lost love,
I understand that this is a natural process.

In my case, my girlfriend and I were thinking about
ratcheting up our relationship. Her lease was about
to end, and she wanted to move into my apartment.
As we were spending most of our time there anyway,
it made sense from a financial perspective.

But there is something significant about having
separate places. I know I lost love because I
couldn’t handle her taking our relationship to
this level. I guess the time span of our
relationship was up because I wasn’t willing to
become more committed. Now,

I know I handled the situation badly. I went
to a friend’s bachelor party and let’s just say
things got out of hand. Word about the wild antics
at the party got back to my girlfriend, naturally,
and she dumped me. I lost love over the events of
one night.

But, when I think back on what really happened, the
events of the bachelor party were really a reaction
to our discussion of more commitment. I seriously
don’t think I would have behaved the way I did if
I really wanted her to move in. I lost love
because I wasn’t ready for the direction it was
taking.

I’m glad I had the chance to be in a relationship
with my ex. But I don’t think she was the love of
my life, my soul mate. Instead, she was someone
with whom I genuinely enjoyed spending time. I
loved her. I still love her. But, she is not the
person with whom I see spending the rest of my life.

I went through a period of mourning the relationship
and analyzing what went wrong. I really was hurt
when she said she wanted to end things. Sure, I
understood that I had hurt her. But, I didn’t want
her to leave my life completely.

I guess what I wanted was for things to continue on
the way they were. But, every relationship has to
grow or die. Because I wasn’t willing to let it grow,
it had to die. In every relationship, there is a time
to die. And, for me, this was it. That’s how I lost love.