He Dumped Me How Will I Ever Survive

If you are saying "he dumped me.  How will
I ever survive?" mere words in an article
will not give you comfort.  It may help to
know that while you’ve broken up, you are
not a broken person. 

When you’ve been in the position that "he
dumped me," you have two fears.  The first
is that you will never recover from the
pain.  The second is that no one will ever
love you again. 

Take heart, dear.  The fear is real.  The
pain is real.  But, the situation exists
in your head, not in the real world. 
While one part of your life may be over,
your life is not over.

You still have friends and family who care
about you.  In fact, you now have more time
to spend with them.  Many times, when you get
into an involved romantic relationship, we
lose touch with the other people who bring
meaning to your life.  You now have a chance
to reconnect with them.

In fact, sharing your loss with them may
encourage them to share their break up
experiences with you.  When you say,
"he dumped me," that allows them to be
vulnerable about how they've been hurt. 
You will begin to see that your pain is not
unique.  You will also be able to see that
other people have lived full and complete
lives after a break up.

In addition to having more time for others
who you care about, you will have more time
to work on the issues in your life.  Many
times, when you are in a relationship, the
activities you care about get pushed aside
if your boyfriend isn't interested in them. 
This is a good time to get re-involved in the
things that matter to you.

If no particular activity comes to mind, then
maybe you need to get a hobby!  No, really,
when you say "he dumped me," what you tell
yourself is that you are worthless.  When you
take up a new activity and invest in yourself,
you prove to yourself that you matter.

There are all kinds of activities you can get
involved with.  The best thing to do is to join
a group, class, or workshop.  For instance, j
oining a hiking club will let you meet lots of
people who enjoy the great outdoors.  A ballroom
dancing class will introduce you to people who
enjoy the finer things in life.  A writer’s
workshop will be filled with creative types.

As you begin to re-engage with the world, you
will lose the sense of desperation you felt
when he dumped you.  You will make new friends
who share a common interest.  And, you may even
meet someone special to spend your time with.

The truth is that you will find someone to date
again.  Your soul mate is out there. 

Your ex may have done you a favor by breaking up
with you because now you have a chance to find
someone who fits you better.

And, always remember, the best revenge when
"he dumped me" is moving on!