Stop Divorce and Save Your Relationship

If you want to stop divorce, you have to convince
the person what wants to divorce you to give the
relationship another try. This isn’t always
possible, but it’s absolutely necessary if you
have a chance of stopping a divorce. A divorce
can be stopped at virtually any stage—before it’s
filed or just before it needs the final paperwork.
The earlier you stop a divorce, the more likely it
is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least
not anytime soon.

So to stop a divorce, you must convince the person
to give the relationship another chance. If you have
been begging the other person to give you another
try or pleading for them to get back together with
you, stop immediately. This might seem counterproductive,
as if now that the person has less resistance it
will make it easier for them to divorce you. But
your pleading probably wasn’t doing anything but
convincing them that divorce is a good idea anyway.
Who wants to be around someone who is behaving that
way?

If you can start acting more mature and behave in a
more pleasant manner, it might surprise the other
person and help stop divorce. Explain that you really
don’t want the divorce and you want another chance in
a calm way. The person already knows this so you
screaming or carrying on won’t help your chances.
Just make it clear that you’re hurt and very sad,
and you really want another chance. You might be
surprised how the other person reacts when you change
your behavior.

You can also show a mature side of yourself that the
other person might not have seen over the last several
weeks and suggest marital or couples counseling to stop
divorce. Counseling has worked for million of couples
and your relationship could benefit from it, too. If
you can get the other person to agree to couples
counseling, then you have precious time before they
file for or attempt to finalize a divorce to convince
them to give you and the relationship another chance.

During counseling you’ll have the opportunity to show the
person why they fell in love with you. You can remind
them why you’re together in the first place. And if you
can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the
problems that come up during the counseling—and many
probably will—that might be enough to convince the other
person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but
permanently.

When you succeed and stop divorce, you must remember
that the person was about to divorce you and it would
be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and
file for divorce later. Having already thought about
divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to
file for divorce at one time makes the decision to
file again easier. So be aware of the state of
your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling.
It’s easier to stop divorce temporarily than to
have a good relationship for the long term.