Your Moving On The Break Up Is Over

Sometimes moving on (break up, loss or other major change)
is difficult. It’s rarely easy unless you’re so glad to get out of
a situation that you can’t wait to make changes and move on.
A break up disrupts your whole life. Everything you do and
see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had many mutual
friends, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be
difficult.

One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you’re ready
to move on is your family and friends. If your ex was popular
with your family, you’re going to get tired of questions about
the situation. You must explain to them that you’re moving
on, break up is over, and that you don’t appreciate constantly
being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.

Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They want
to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you’ll get
back together. You can just explain, “Moving on, break up is
over, that’s that.” Eventually they’ll come around because
they’re your family and they love you. It’s probably going to
be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.

If you didn’t have many mutual friends, then it should be less
of a problem. But if the two of you often hung out with the same
group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is
going to seem strange to everyone for a while. And then there’s
the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too.
You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang
out with your mutual friends. This doesn’t mean that it’s
necessary when you’re moving on break up with your friends.
It’s just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those
friendships once the relationship is over.

As difficult as it seems, when you say, “Moving on, break up is history,”
you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your exmay
each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of
mutual friends. Just try to maintain good contact and relationships
with those you’re closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the
others. While this can be painful, it’s probably easiest on everyone
because they don’t have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which
to avoid.

Sometimes the “moving on break up” period is just too difficult when you’re surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a vacation with a friend who isn’t involved in the situation;
maybe a friend of yours who wasn’t friends with your ex.
This can help you get some perspective. Once you’ve declared,
“moving on; break up over” then if you can take some time
away it can help you a great deal.